Until recently I couldn't remember where I'd heard it. Read it. Learned about it. But the memory of it remains. Jen Hatmaker wrote about finally finding her vibe, who she is, how she functions in a world of loud and people. She says she felt "diagnosed" for the first time in her life after reading Susan Cains Quiet. The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. I would tend to agree with this analysis about myself and I can see how it applies to Jen Hatmaker.
I was raised with an extrovert parent, to be an extroverted person. To enjoy group activities, dislike solitude, prefer large (and loud) parties, enjoy talking (on the phone, in person, in crowds, to people), to be busy all.the.time, to multitask... things of this nature.
However, I actually prefer small settings. I experience sensory overload. I dislike large crowds, by large I mean more than 10 people. I particularly dislike large crowds in small spaces. I have anxiety about being in crowded public places. People, noisy environments, loudness, crunching sounds (like ice, chips, popcorn, gum popping, slurping) can send me over the edge.
I purchased Susan Cain's book after reading Jen Hatmakers For The Love (Chapter 17 is her introvert epiphany). I am determined to read it this month...er..re-read it...I mean finish reading it.
Some tidbits that enabled me to turn away from the loud and chatty to embracing the introspective are:
Introverts recharge their batteries by being alone. CHECK Introverts dislike small talk. CHECK A typical introvert would rather spend their vacation reading on the beach than on a cruise ship. CHECK Introverts prefer environments that are not overstimulating. CHECK
All of this made sense to me and I began embracing who I am. An Introvert.
In knowing this I have resolved this year to be who I am. In the words of Gretchen Rubin, who states in her book The Happiness Project to Be Gretchen. I resolve to Be Shelly. Live by the rules of being Shelly.
I'll update with where I am in the book this month (or however long it takes me to read it.)
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Tuesday, March 17, 2015
The One Where I Review
Maybe it's too early to look back on 2015? I'm feeling rusty and it's only March 17! Oh yea. St. Patricks Day! Ooops I'm not wearing green.
Although I wear it often enough. Green with envy. Like why can't I write like that, be funny like that, have a blog like that, be "that church lady" the one who seems to float on clouds and is kind to everyone she meets, be "that kind" of parent instead of #thatmom, have that kind of marriage, run a better race, figuratively and literally.
Instead I hobble along.... I have goals, lofty goals, maybe too many goals. Perhaps it's more than I can realistically complete. Now that I've left my job, perhaps I'll have better success at the "high-ness" of what I'd like to achieve.
In the book Goodbye Survival Mode, one I highly recommend, she encouraged you to look at the categories of your life and make goals based on those. As well as time goals.
I'm pretty sure I didn't blog about my oneword for 2015. But it's Progress (not Perfection). I need to strive for progress because there's no road to perfection that doesn't leave me battered and worn.
Basic Goals:
Read More
Run More
Date More
Blog More
Breaking that down:
Read More: The Bible In A Year, SRT Devotionals, 1 30-day book per month, 12 books
Run More: I'm on a team #HeySisterSoleSisters for the Run The Edge Challenge to run 2015 in 2015. I've also decided not to race this year, but to get healthy and run better. The Challenge keeps me focused without spending money on racing and really I'm just not that into it. My Milage goal is 800 miles this year. That's roughly 67 miles per month.
Date More: I'm not single so I don't mean "dating" but Dating Consistently. Monthly date nights with my man. One on one time with each of my kids. Family Day with my siblings. Meet my friends for coffee. Hang out after runs. Connect with the world around me.
Blog More: The only way to blog more is to Blog More. It's not like I'm looking to make a career out of my thoughts, although that thought sounds nice. It's that I need to talk about my kids, my family, my life. I don't scrap book and I've never done well with keeping baby books filled out. I journal, a lot, well I used to. But now that I'm in that purging state of life... what I like to refer to as Clear The Clutter, Find A Life Worth Living.... so those boxes of journals in the attic need to go!
There's only one thing left, Blog.
So how I am doing? Well, I'm making progress.
Reading. Weeeellll, I'm not exactly on Day XX in my bible in a year, but I've made it past Genesis! I've read one 30-day book thus far. I read SRT and occasionally participate in the forum. I've read at least two books this year and three more books are in "process".
Run: Making Progress. Not as much as I would like but Mother Nature hates me. More accurately I dislike Old Man Winter. Winter in Texas can be hit or miss. Mild weather or ice, sleet, and snow. This year was ice, sleet, snow and bitter cold (for Texas). And I just won't go out in it. I.Just.Won't.
138 miles for the year. Not where I'd like to be, but there's progress and Spring is coming!
Dating: Meh. One Date Night, One Girls Night Out, Two Family Days, One Coffee Date, A few Hang Outs. I'm making progress!
Blogs: Shrug. There is room for improvement. Lots of room. This is my third blog this month! My goal is 1 per week, per subject. The One Where I... #iamTHATmom and Five Minute Friday
Which also brings me to less clutter. I've been going through closets and boxes. I'm purging around here. I've made a lot of progress. Things tossed, given away and shredded. I literally have shredded paperwork from nearly 20 years ago! Seriously, things have needed to be gone through and discarded. I've taken multiple lawn and leaf bags to the recycle bins. Progress for sure!
There's still more to do. Clear more clutter. Let go of more things that are holding us down. Shredding to be done. Books to be read. Miles to be run. Dates to remember. :)
Progress. I like it. :)
Although I wear it often enough. Green with envy. Like why can't I write like that, be funny like that, have a blog like that, be "that church lady" the one who seems to float on clouds and is kind to everyone she meets, be "that kind" of parent instead of #thatmom, have that kind of marriage, run a better race, figuratively and literally.
Instead I hobble along.... I have goals, lofty goals, maybe too many goals. Perhaps it's more than I can realistically complete. Now that I've left my job, perhaps I'll have better success at the "high-ness" of what I'd like to achieve.
In the book Goodbye Survival Mode, one I highly recommend, she encouraged you to look at the categories of your life and make goals based on those. As well as time goals.
I'm pretty sure I didn't blog about my oneword for 2015. But it's Progress (not Perfection). I need to strive for progress because there's no road to perfection that doesn't leave me battered and worn.
Basic Goals:
Read More
Run More
Date More
Blog More
Breaking that down:
Read More: The Bible In A Year, SRT Devotionals, 1 30-day book per month, 12 books
Run More: I'm on a team #HeySisterSoleSisters for the Run The Edge Challenge to run 2015 in 2015. I've also decided not to race this year, but to get healthy and run better. The Challenge keeps me focused without spending money on racing and really I'm just not that into it. My Milage goal is 800 miles this year. That's roughly 67 miles per month.
Date More: I'm not single so I don't mean "dating" but Dating Consistently. Monthly date nights with my man. One on one time with each of my kids. Family Day with my siblings. Meet my friends for coffee. Hang out after runs. Connect with the world around me.
Blog More: The only way to blog more is to Blog More. It's not like I'm looking to make a career out of my thoughts, although that thought sounds nice. It's that I need to talk about my kids, my family, my life. I don't scrap book and I've never done well with keeping baby books filled out. I journal, a lot, well I used to. But now that I'm in that purging state of life... what I like to refer to as Clear The Clutter, Find A Life Worth Living.... so those boxes of journals in the attic need to go!
There's only one thing left, Blog.
So how I am doing? Well, I'm making progress.
Reading. Weeeellll, I'm not exactly on Day XX in my bible in a year, but I've made it past Genesis! I've read one 30-day book thus far. I read SRT and occasionally participate in the forum. I've read at least two books this year and three more books are in "process".
Run: Making Progress. Not as much as I would like but Mother Nature hates me. More accurately I dislike Old Man Winter. Winter in Texas can be hit or miss. Mild weather or ice, sleet, and snow. This year was ice, sleet, snow and bitter cold (for Texas). And I just won't go out in it. I.Just.Won't.
138 miles for the year. Not where I'd like to be, but there's progress and Spring is coming!
Dating: Meh. One Date Night, One Girls Night Out, Two Family Days, One Coffee Date, A few Hang Outs. I'm making progress!
Blogs: Shrug. There is room for improvement. Lots of room. This is my third blog this month! My goal is 1 per week, per subject. The One Where I... #iamTHATmom and Five Minute Friday
Which also brings me to less clutter. I've been going through closets and boxes. I'm purging around here. I've made a lot of progress. Things tossed, given away and shredded. I literally have shredded paperwork from nearly 20 years ago! Seriously, things have needed to be gone through and discarded. I've taken multiple lawn and leaf bags to the recycle bins. Progress for sure!
There's still more to do. Clear more clutter. Let go of more things that are holding us down. Shredding to be done. Books to be read. Miles to be run. Dates to remember. :)
Progress. I like it. :)
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